Anyway, one thing I've noticed on this board is that people tend to complain about their spouses, and more often than not, other moms will chime in saying that "he's got issues" or even "leave him". Don't get me wrong: many of these guys might have issues and some even should be left, but shouldn't that be a last resort? A lot of these are responses to things like comments on clothing the mom is wearing or how the baby is being fed. (Not whether or not the baby is being fed, but disagreement over the method.) I appreciate that my husband is wise enough to keep his opinions about my attire to himself, but if he did one day decide to chime in with his two cents, I wouldn't consider that a divorce-worthy offense.
Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but when I see so many moms have an abundance of opinions about the best way to raise their child and in the same breath be so willing to suggest pulling the plug on the child's other parent, I get confused at the end goal. Plenty of children can grow up happy and healthy with divorced parents (including yours truly), but it usually isn't easy on anyone. I also think that compromise is a magnificent tool and that treating your spouse with love and respect can often result in that being done to you in return and set a great example for your kids. (Not always. Some people are d-bags and always will be.) (All genders included.)
Marriage should still be a priority once the kids are in the picture, maybe even more so. It's so easy to say "you were my #1 but now my kid is my #1", but that's not how I like to view it. My family is my #1. As a whole. And that includes my husband. Otherwise those marriage vows we made, amidst Mario Kart references and Star Wars music, just don't quite mean as much.
(Our wedding was awesome.)
Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but when I see so many moms have an abundance of opinions about the best way to raise their child and in the same breath be so willing to suggest pulling the plug on the child's other parent, I get confused at the end goal. Plenty of children can grow up happy and healthy with divorced parents (including yours truly), but it usually isn't easy on anyone. I also think that compromise is a magnificent tool and that treating your spouse with love and respect can often result in that being done to you in return and set a great example for your kids. (Not always. Some people are d-bags and always will be.) (All genders included.)
Marriage should still be a priority once the kids are in the picture, maybe even more so. It's so easy to say "you were my #1 but now my kid is my #1", but that's not how I like to view it. My family is my #1. As a whole. And that includes my husband. Otherwise those marriage vows we made, amidst Mario Kart references and Star Wars music, just don't quite mean as much.
(Our wedding was awesome.)
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